Paved the way for a Great Day

Paved the way for a Great Day

This weekend Nick and I attended a very special BBQ. This particular BBQ was thrown by DFW NORML &  UNT NORML and was held at the VA hospital in Dallas. The NORML family fed around 250 Veterans that are currently admitted into the hospital. There were all sorts of delicious foods and $150 was raised to award these Vets in BINGO. I have to admit , when I initially heard about the BBQ I did not want to go. I do not enjoy being out in the heat and my body has been  fighting me lately. I did decide to go and I am so glad I did. Even though I am technically not a member of NORML I have attended several events, enough to be able to put names with faces. There are some really amazing people that are part of this awesome organization. On this particular day one specific member really made my day. Within minutes of arriving Ed came up to me grabbed my hands and asked how I was feeling. I was a little taken back. Ed is everything Rock’n’Roll and a tad bit intimidating, but here he was holding my hands and sincerely asking me how I was today. I gave him an honest, slightly humorous answer. I try my hardest to infuse any talk of my suffering with as much humor as possible, it makes it less awkward for everyone. Then, in a completely unexpected turn in the conversation, Ed told me that he has been following my blog. This very blog that I am writing on now. Whoa! Ed is the coolest...
I dont know how you do it

I dont know how you do it

“I dont know how you do it.” I hear that so often it makes me want to scream. I know, most of the time, when people say it, that its meant to be encouraging. Its a form of praise, wow you are doing something that I couldnt! But it still annoys me to no end.  I stay at home with 2 very rowdy little boys, I have a constant level of pain most people could not imagine and Im always on my hustle. I do do a lot and for the most part, I do it well. I dont need people to point that out. Actually, what I need is for people to start THINKING before SPEAKING ! My children are always fed, bathed and nurtured. They want for nothing. I have a successful eBay store and I source content for 3 other websites. My house is always clean and the laundry is always done. 5 out of 7 nights a week I have a wonderful dinner full of wholesome ingredients prepared for my family. Very rarely do I let the pain stop me. There are times when I cant do it. When the pain is just too much that I have to stop for a few minutes. I have to take the time to regroup and regather before I can press on. In the end, it all gets done, sometimes it just takes me a little longer than others. When I hear someone say “I dont know how you do it…” I want to respond in a very blunt , yet honest tone “What option do I have?!?”...
Good without God

Good without God

This past Thursday was the 4th of July. Nick and Maxwell went down to the annual Arlington Independence Day parade. You had the usual paradees , the Boy Scout troops, High School Cheerleaders and bands, the Elvis on motorcycles club, but this year, there was a different group in the parade,  the Metroplex Atheists. I was not there but Nick snapped a pic of one of their banners ” Millions of Americans are Patriotic without God”. Swoon. I loved it ! Most people know that I am openly non-religious.  I do not find that my beliefs go hand in hand with any religion and I have spent years searching.  That does not mean I am not spiritual, I am, just in a much different way than most.  That is a whole different story for a completely different time, this post is not necessarily about my beliefs. At the parade people cheered for the Boy Scouts! They cheered for the band kids and the cheerleaders! The Elvis riding club received a standing ovation. The Metroplex Atheists did not.  Actually, there were a few select members of the crowd heckling them, shouting mumble jumble about Jesus. WHY ?!?!? It is taught the Christians are to love thy neighbor. This goes far beyond race, gender or sexual orientation. It is not meant to exclude “those” people. Yet it does. While these hecklers were proudly boasting their Christianity , they are giving many non-believers more ammo. People who classify themselves as Gods Children acting in a way that does not align with Christian principles and teachings.  Judging another person based on their version...
The Mountain of Steaming Hot Garbage

The Mountain of Steaming Hot Garbage

There are some people in my life who bring me down. They do not understand my position, do not respect it and fill my head ( and heart) with all sorts of negativity. These are people who are deeply embedded in my inner circle and there is no real way to tell them to take a fucking hike without negative repercussion of some sort.  So whats a girl to do? I am a very emotionally charged individual. I find it to be an absolute truth that people will remember the way you made them feel and not anything else. With that in consideration I want it also to be said that you can never take a feeling back. Once you have made a person feel a certain way, you can not undo it. I want to be remembered as someone who helped others feel good. I am dealing with a lot of bullshit health issues. Its like a constant beat down of one thing right after another. This is the time in my life when I need the people around me to help build me up.  There are some people who have ( surprisingly) helped more than I would have imagined but there are others, who I really was counting on, that have fallen flat. Not so much they havent been holding my hand telling me Im going to be alright but they seem to wanna bring additional piles of steaming hot garbage into my life. These arent acquaintances that I can ignore but people who have a day to day involvement in my life. At this point, where...
God and Guns

God and Guns

In the wake of the horrible tragedy that occurred last week in Connecticut I have heard many people say that this would have never happened if God was allowed in school. To me, this is ludacris. There are so many things wrong with this statement that my head is spinning trying to figure out where to start. I asked someone why they thought this and was told that God didnt protect the children because prayer has been banned in public school. Really? So because the school districts have chosen not to discriminate against non Christian families and honor the First Amendment by keeping Church and State separated God allowed a man to slaughter 20 small children? As you can imagine, that didnt go over well. Somehow because I was questioning this stance I became a “bad guy”.  Im ok with that. I know that I am not a “bad guy”. My heart was broken right along with everyone elses when we learned that something so vile and horrendous had happened. This incident took place in a gun free zone. Along with God, guns are also not allowed in school. So my next question is – If the monster that did this took a gun into a gun free zone WHY would one think he wouldnt have done it if prayer were allowed? Clearly he didnt have any concern over what laws he was breaking. He broke both laws defined by man and laws defined by morals. Although Christianity is the dominant religion in the US it is not the official religion. The United States was actually founded by people...
Holiday Spirit

Holiday Spirit

Here we are, the last day of November 2012. I cant not believe just how fast this year has gone by. Thanksgiving has passed and Christmas is here, there, everywhere. You cant escape it !!! Usually, I enjoy Christmas just as much as the next gal but with the weather still in the 80s I just cant seem to get my bells jingling this year. Ive bought all the gifts, wrapped them up with the pretty paper and excessive ribbons, everything is red and white and Santa’d to the max, the house smells of fir and frost but here I am in flip flops. <SIGH>  I sure hope the weather changes soon, I cant imagine what Christmas will be like if it stays this warm. Yes, even here in Texas, we do expect it to be chilly in December. Instead of adopting an Angel from the Salvation Army Tree this year I decided to start my own toy drive. The Arlington Life Shelter is a local organization that is very near and dear to my heart. I am very excited to say that I have secured 3 donation drop off locations ! Danny’s Norwood Service, Skillet & Grill  and Mr. B’s Burger Pub. All have my handmade “Toys & Coats” donation boxes proudly displayed at the front of their establishments.  Last month when we made our donation drop off I spoke with the administrator at the shelter who advised me that there are 13 children ranging from 2-13 years of age there. These children have nothing. Their parents have nothing. Nick does an amazing job at providing for myself...